A charity set up in memory of my son Harvey to provide children with a bespoke unique, individualised and personalised memory box to help preserve memories of a lost sibling.When you lose a child there is very little support for the bereaved sibling. The boxes are a very simple, but effective way of helping a sibling remember their brother or sister and preserve their memory.
We have currently supplied over 130 memory boxes to families around the UK through bereavement services and charities. Our memory boxes are displayed at many Children’s hospices throughout the UK and our local Children’s hospital’s bereavement team, have a memory box to offer families at an appropriate time.
What your help is achieving
The Harvey Hext Trust – A Siblings Wish supply high quality, wooden, individual A4 personalised memory boxes to each bereaved sibling in the family. The memory boxes will hold the sibling’s treasured items that can stay with them forever and continue to keep the child’s memory alive for future generations. The memory boxes are designed by the sibling using photos, pictures or drawings that are special to them. The memory boxes are offered at an appropriate time by a lead professional, sometimes when end of life is near or often after the child has passed away. This will depend on each individual family. In some cases they are designed by children who are planning their own funeral – as awful as this sounds it does actually happen, particularly with teenage children who have a long terminal diagnoses. I am sure you will agree it is a beautiful gift to leave their siblings or parents.
The boxes can be important part of therapy to encourage children to show emotions and to talk about their bereavement. The boxes are a very simple but effective way of helping a sibling remember their brother or sister and to preserve their memory. Each box also comes with “Harvey bear”. Harvey is a very special bear that conceals a small velcro pouch at the back. The pouch can be used to carry a small amount of ashes or another precious item. “Harvey bear” can be a comfort that a brother or sister is always close by. Each personalised memory box costs approximately £200 depending on design and is delivered to the family home.
Harvey, Spencer and Olivia – the inspiration behind A Sibling’s Wish
Harvey Hext was a beautiful, funny, cheeky much loved (ID) twin boy who had a zest for life. Both Harvey and his twin brother Spencer were born with Down syndrome. In 2010 Harvey was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer called Neuroblastoma. Harvey was believed to be the only known child in the world to have both Down syndrome and Neuroblastoma. He lived a happy and exciting life with stable cancer for 6 years. Harvey was diagnosed in Oct 2014 with a low grade Sarcoma that was removed in Jan 2015 but sadly returned with an aggressive sarcoma in August of that year. Our beautiful special boy fell asleep in our arms on 29th Nov 2015. The day our world turned grey. Before Harvey passed, as a family with a poorly child, we did many fun and exciting things with other charities but as soon as Harvey fell asleep it became apparent that there is very little bereavement support for siblings. Olivia and Spencer were sent cardboard memory boxes, but my fear was that cardboard was not durable and not special enough to contain such treasured memories. Olivia and Spencer helped to create Harvey’s memory box – you can see from the pictures below how beautiful it is. Our box is personal to everything that Harvey loved. With your help we can provide more families with beautiful memory boxes of their own to treasure.
If you are a professional or bereavement organisation and would like to find out more please contact us